Upsets As Learning Opportunities

Use Upsets as Opportunities to
Learn Something New About Yourself

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Start with the understanding that upsets are normal, especially in relationships. Not only are they normal, but they are also predictable, inevitable and recurring. That is, they will happen, and they will happen over and over again!

Why? Because most upsets are internal conflicts played out in the dynamics of relationships. Instead of being about what happens in the external world, like the price of gas at the pump, they are about your own feelings and thoughts, like "People are always taking advantage of me."

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Are You Projecting?

Learn to Recognize When You're Projecting
and Get Out of Denial

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People talk about denial all the time. No doubt, one of the greatest personal challenges is being able to recognize when you're in denial. By definition, you can't see what you're doing. But, this should help.

First, recognize that projection, one of the sour fruits of denial, is a part of human psychology at this point in our evolution. We all do it and we are likely to keep doing it for the foreseeable future. So, being in an evolutionary relationship or enlightened partnership is not about never projecting. It is about being mindful and self-reflective enough to recognize when you are doing it.

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How Do You Know When You’re Loved?

This entry is part 4 of 4 in the series 10 Key Abilities for Creating Successful Relationships

A Little Something for Valentine's Day!

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This week's post is a recorded conversation between Paul and Layne, number four in a series of conversations entitled, 10 Key Abilities for Building Successful Relationships.

How do you know when you're loved? That isn't something most people think about a lot, if at all. But, knowing "how you know" when you're loved really sets you up to win, especially if you can ask for what you want. And it sets the people around you up to win, also.

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How to Speak Your Truth

This entry is part 3 of 10 of 4 in the series 10 Key Abilities for Creating Successful Relationships
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This week's post is a recorded conversation between Paul and Layne about speaking your truth, the third in a series of conversations entitled, 10 Key Abilities for Building Successful Relationships.

Do you ever find it challenging to speak your truth in some situations? One of the most difficult things to do, for most people, is to speak their truth appropriately, quickly, with good intention and with emotional congruence. All of those elements are critical to a positive outcome. Today we discuss why it's important and offer some suggestions for how to do it. We also cover what can go wrong when we don't.

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What If We Could Create a Future Together?

by Layne Cutright


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The evolving edge for humanity is co-creating our futures together. I’m talking about using the alchemy of consciousness to create what we want from nothing! But, there is a threshold we must cross before we can fully participate in this leading edge game of life. We each must become familiar with our own internal landscape – our own consciousness. Why? Because the world we see and experience with our five senses reflects our consciousness. Our consciousness is composed of our thoughts, beliefs, feelings and memories.

There is a problem, though; we can’t fake our consciousness. It is what it is. We can’t pretend we are further along than we really are because what we call "reality" mirrors where we truly are in our personal and collective development, whether we like it or not. Consciousness = Results. It’s as powerful a force of nature as gravity.

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