Relationship Savvy Dialogues

How Do We Reach Intimacy?

Each person seems to understand the intimate experience in his or her own way. In a sense it takes a journey of personal discovery to learn how to share intimacy with another person. Here are some guidelines that may help to define that journey –

Know Your Self: Get in touch with your own private experiences. In our stressed-out world this is often hard to do because our attention is directed outward much of the time. It helps to sit – doing nothing and being distracted by nothing – and spend time in reflection and introspection. Observe your thoughts and feelings. The brain has pleasure centers – close your eyes and imagine yourself experiencing pleasure. Become familiar with those parts of yourself that are strong and that feel whole and integrated. Learn to feel comfortable with the part of yourself that senses calmness, confidence and peace. (Some people like to spend a few minutes every night before bed, perhaps with just a candle burning, reflecting on the events of the day. Others prefer to keep a daily journal of their private thoughts and feelings.) Until you know your own private feelings, it is difficult to share them with someone else.

We cannot expect to be intimate with another when we are out of touch with our own internal experiences. Continue reading »

written by Paul and Layne \\ tags: communication, health, Relationships, trust

This video is a beautiful and touching example of how precious our relationship is with the natural world. It can be especially moving when animals, especially wild creatures, place their trust in humans.

We hope you find joy, hope and inspiration in this video.

written by Paul and Layne \\ tags: hummingbird, trust, video

We were ready for a new way of working.

The question was how. We were living in this question with no clear answer. In other words we had again jumped into the void with only our spiritual guidance as a safety net.

Have you been there before? We imagine you have. It seems no matter how practiced any of us get at trusting the process of change and evolution there can still be the occasional sense of trepidation and second guessing.

There is a metaphor that has served us well. Picture yourself as a trapeze artist swinging from one bar to another. There is a point in time where you aren’t holding onto anything. You are mid flight for awhile before you can grasp the bar before you. Continue reading »

written by Paul and Layne \\ tags: change, letting go, Paul and Layne Cutright, trust, uncertainty