Is This You?
Is This You?
Below we describe typical situations of people who come to us. There is a wide range of situations that we work with, so if you see yourself or your situation below you may want to consider contacting us for a no pressure, no obligation conversation to explore the possibilities and see if we can help.
We begin with the most challenging situations first because if this is you, you probably don’t want to waste your time reading through less serious scenarios to find out if we even address what you are experiencing.
OK, here we go . . .
You have a relationship crisis on your hands and you don’t know what to do. You want a divorce or you have filed for divorce. Or your mate has told you he/she wants a divorce.
Your mate has walked out on you, or vice versa. Your relationship has become verbally abusive (or worse) and you are acting out in front of your children who are being affected by the toxicity of your relationship.
One of you has had or is having an affair that has been revealed.
You own a business together and are splitting up, creating a complicated business, financial and legal situation.
You’ve been to counseling or therapy and it isn’t working and you don’t know what to do. It hasn’t helped much and it feels like no one can help, or even understand what you are going through.
You would like to find a way through this (and you say to yourself that you’re willing to do whatever it takes) because you recognize that for any number of reasons, you and your mate are going to have to relate with one another. If there is any way your relationship can become courteous, respectful and dignified you would like to do it, especially if there are children involved.
If any of this begins to describe your situation you should know that we do “relationship crisis turnaround” work. If you would like to learn more about what this looks like, go here and read the section called Crisis Intervention.
Almost a Crisis
You think you have a good relationship, or you used to, but you’ve hit a wall. You can’t communicate and you’ve grown farther and farther apart. Your conversations are just about the logistics of life. You never talk about the exciting things you once shared in common.
Your life together has settled into a boring routine, a rut from which there seems no escape. You keep thinking that it will get better, but neither of you is doing anything to have it be different, much less better. You feel that he/she doesn’t understand you and you don’t feel safe to talk about what’s really important to you.
You’ve been to counseling or therapy and it has maybe helped a little bit, but not enough. Or, you have felt that the therapist/counselor has taken your mate’s side and the sessions are all about how “wrong” you are. You feel beat up by the process.
You fantasize about leaving or living another kind of life. You feel regret over some choices you made and are now stuck with the consequences. Yet, there doesn’t seem to be a way out or through.
You’ve Hit a Wall
You love each other and have had a good relationship up until recently, and now it feels like you’ve hit a wall. You don’t know what happened or quite how you got here. You’re not sure if you need or want counseling, but you also don’t know what to do to make it better on your own.
You Want to Make Your Good Relationship GREAT!
There is nothing wrong in your relationship, you just want it to be the best it can be. You love learning and growing and are committed to doing it together. You recognize there are things you don’t know that you don’t know about relationships, and you want to learn them.