Partnerships are intentional relationships between two or more people who want to create a future together. That future could be anything from a life-long marriage to a business partnership to a short-term project.
We’ve been coaching all kinds of people in consciously creating the kind of relationships they truly want for over 30 years. All too often we see people settle for less than what they really want, unnecessarily. We understand, because that’s what we used to do, too. That is, until we learned the five keys to creating lasting, fulfilling relationships.
People are always asking us, what’s the secret to our long-standing romantic, professional and creative partnership? It seems that being madly in love with the same person for 30+ years is pretty unusual. Especially when so many people are settling for a barely “better than bad” relationship! Continue reading »
written by Paul and Layne
The second key to powerful partnerships is having a working knowledge of the five stages of relationship.
The five stages are:
1. Attraction
2. Power Struggle
3. Cooperation
4. Synergy
5. Completion
The most problematic stages for most people are Power Struggle and Completion. People often ask us if the Power Struggle stage is necessary. Who wouldn’t want to avoid power struggle? People don’t exactly jump up and down with excitement when they enter that stage, like they might in the attraction stage! Continue reading »
written by Paul and Layne
Would you even consider building a house without an architect and a blueprint? You wouldn’t get some wood, nails and a hammer and just start putting something together and hope it turned into a house you would want to live in, would you? People do the equivalent with their partnerships all the time.
They “believe” it will work out because it just “feels” right. Most people leave the success of their most important relationships up to chance and luck, in the hope that it will turn out. Too many times it doesn’t and then they are left wondering, “What did I do wrong?”
It can be a sobering realization when you see that your love and/or good intentions alone are not enough to guarantee success in your partnerships. But it can also be a relief when you discover what does guarantee success and fulfillment. The additional components are education and skill – education about what it takes to have relationships succeed, and skill in standard practices of success. Those are things that anyone can learn if they are sufficiently motivated. Continue reading »
written by Paul and Layne
Assuming radical personal responsibility is like accepting a mantle of spiritual power and wisdom. It elevates you to the understanding that you are not a victim of life, your life and your partnerships don’t happen to you. Your partnerships are a reflection of your own consciousness.
Your thoughts, beliefs, feelings, attitudes and behaviors are creative factors in your life. If you will assume responsibility for the quality of those factors you can also assume responsibility for the results. That means you can have some creative control over the quality of your life and relationships.
You can be the author of your own experience. We call it radical because it is so uncommon in our culture. It represents a paradigm shift, a radical shift in your understanding of how things actually work to create your experience of reality. Continue reading »
written by Paul and Layne
What does Conscious Evolution mean? In part, it means that you are evolving. Your experience of yourself is evolving. Who you are now is in the process of becoming something even greater than who you are in this present moment and you can participate knowingly in this process.
There is greatness in you being called forth. Your partnerships are the womb of this greatness. You are like the caterpillar that goes into a chrysalis to become the butterfly. Your partnerships are the place where you evolve into the best you that you can be.
Recognizing that your partnerships provide you with a powerful opportunity for your personal and spiritual growth, you can truly take advantage of the opportunities present in your partnerships if you share a commitment to use your relationship with each other for your mutual growth and evolution. Continue reading »
written by Paul and Layne
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