Couples in Crisis

Paul and Layne's specialty is helping couples in crises of various kinds. For example, infidelity, escalating arguments, loss of intimacy, divorce, loss of a loved one, intrusive memories or financial crisis. They have helped thousands of couples in these kinds of circumstances.

They also use highly effective, accelerated methods for guiding their clients in moving through and getting to the other side of difficult and painful situations. If you're dealing with anything like these, you're in the right place.

What feels like a crisis can just be you bumping into the limits of your own resources and needing help. Maybe you need some new "know how", or perhaps your situation needs some kind of intervention. You don't really know yet. All you know is that it feels really bad.

Most people suffer in relationship because they don't know what they don't know about relationships. They don't know what the possible solutions are and they need expert help to find out. Just like when you have car trouble, and you don't know what you don't know about cars (and you don't even care, you just want it fixed!) So, you take it to a mechanic who can diagnose the problem and tell you what it will take to fix it. With relationships you do care and you do need to know,

Many people embark on the adventure of relationship with a greater measure of hope and good intentions than knowledge or skill in the creative laws of relationship. On the path of romantic partnership there are predictable challenges and unseen opportunities within the relationship itself that most people are unprepared to meet.

Your situation may have reached a place where the growing toxicity of your relationship difficulties has spread and is affecting other areas of your life; your health, your work, your financial  future or other important relationships. Your ability to enjoy life and relax with your partner is seriously compromised. Maybe you're already in a crisis or you are afraid you are approaching one.

Let's see . . .  what kinds of things qualify as a crisis?

"Oh my God, what have I done?"
  • You don't know if you should stay in the relationship or leave it.
  • Relationship problems are affecting your work and/or the rest of your family.
  • You are talking about separating, getting a divorce or a breakup feels imminent.
  • Your mate has walked out on you or vice versa.
  • Your relationship has become verbally abusive (or worse) and/or you are acting out in front of your children who are being affected by the toxicity of your relationship.
  • One of you has had or is having an affair.
  • You own a business together and you're splitting up, creating a complicated business, financial and legal situation.
  • You are feeling more frustrated with the counseling or therapy you've been involved with. I hasn't helped in the way you hoped. You feel like you could use another perspective.
  • You don't feel "in love" any more and you don't know how to talk about it.

Even if you get divorced there are any number of reasons you and your mate are going to have to relate with one another. You may need to co-parent or share the same community or network of friends. It will be important to find a way to be courteous, respectful and dignified as you navigate the imminent change in your relationship. This is not necessarily easy to do. But, you don't have to do it alone, you can be guided through a gauntlet of painful choices to a harmonious outcome, by experienced and caring guides.

If you feel you are in a crisis you should know Paul and Layne have special expertise in "relationship crisis turn around" work. They have been guiding couples through these important challenges since 1977. They understand how much is at stake and how important it is to have professional and experienced counsel. It is such a relief when you know you have made the right decision to get help. But, finding the right help can feel overwhelming at a time when you already feel overwhelmed.

Paul and Layne want to help you get the support you need as quickly as possible. And because every relationship has its own particular dynamics, the best way is for you to speak with them. The way they do this is to have a complimentary, no cost, no pressure, no obligation 30 minute confidential conversation with each of you. You are each different people and you each have different perspectives. This way they can clarify exactly what you both need. You will also get a sense of how comfortable you feel with them and how they address your questions and concerns.

In order to save time and have a focused conversation, you can click the link in this paragraph to be directed to a simple, safe and short online Pre-Coaching Questionnaire. This will help you gather your thoughts and give them the basic information they need to be ready for your call. After they have read your questionnaire they will contact you within 3 days to schedule your consultation. On this call they will explain how they work and answer any questions you may have. After your consultation, should you decide to move forward, let Paul and Layne know so you can all discuss how you would like to set up your coaching sessions.

Once they receive your questionnaire, they will review it then contact you to schedule your individual consultations. After they have spoken with you and you choose to move forward, they will schedule your first couples session.

One last thing. Paul and Layne have noticed that too many couples often think "it's really not that bad" and things will "just sort of work themselves out" if they give it enough time.  Unfortunately, that is seldom how it turns out. The most important thing is not to wait until it's too late.

If you are not quite ready to fill out the application, that's okay. They suggest you read what some of their clients say about working with them.   Click Here for Testimonials   Over the last forty years thousands of people from all over the world have put their trust in Paul and Layne to help them through the really rough spots in their relationship. In reading what some of them share you might find people in situations similar to your own that will inspire a greater understanding of the possibilities and the confidence you need to move forward with Paul and Layne.

"We were on the verge of a nasty divorce after I discovered my wife's affair with a co-worker and confronted her. That's when it got ugly. We tried several different therapists and counselors without much to show for it. Then some friends referred us to Paul and Layne.

We were skeptical about working long distance over Skype, but we knew after our first session with them that they could really help us get through this and heal. It took  some time, but they honestly saved our marriage."

Jack & Alison ~ Maui, Hawaii

"We look forward to speaking with you!"