Layne and Paul
We met in 1976 in a beautiful Victorian house in San Francisco, which served as a center for healing and spiritual studies. We both volunteered in the office and had known each other in a casual way for about three months when something remarkable happened.
Let us set the scene for you . . .
A team of volunteers had been gathered to put out a big mailing. Layne and a group of eight others were seated around a large table, laughing and chatting as they set up the assembly line. Paul walked through the door and his eyes began to sweep the room. His gaze connected with Layne's just at the moment she looked up.
Instantly it was as though a giant switch had been turned on and a surge of energy was ignited between us. We felt powerless to look away as our bodies started pulsing with the energy. We were locked in a timeless moment that would change our lives forever.
Something sacred and beautiful was being touched, though we did not know what. Everyone else in the room seemed to fade away. All that existed for us was the corridor of light that joined us in a feeling of unspeakable love and recognition. It was as a moment of magic and mystery, and then it was over as suddenly as it had begun. It was as if some great hand turned off the switch and we both fell back into normal reality with a thunk! Everyone in the room was staring at us.
A feeling of self-conscious embarrassment followed for both of us as Paul took a seat next to Layne at the table. We both tried to collect ourselves even though we were still reeling from the experience. We looked deeply into one another's eyes. The same question was blazing in both our minds, "What was that and what does it mean?"
That moment signified the beginning of our romantic adventure. Young though we were, we had both had enough experiences of good love gone bad to realize that our love would wither and die if we didn't do things a lot differently than we had in our previous relationships. Rather than thinking we knew what it would take to have our love grow and last, we acknowledged that we DID NOT know.
So, with an attitude of wonder, armed with the strength of our love, we set about our relationship as an experiment.
What we share here on our web site are the things we have learned that have kept our love and relationships vital and growing for over thirty-five years. It is material we have tested with others in workshops and intensive, six month programs that has proven to work for others, as well. It has been codified in our books and multimedia training programs available on our site.
Our relationship is very complex and very close. We are best friends, lovers, marriage and business partners, teaching colleagues and creative collaborators. Our life and relationship together has not always been easy or predictable. Frankly, there have been times when we wondered if we were going to make it. But, our love has endured, grown stronger and matured.
"So, with an attitude of wonder, armed with the strength of our love, we set about our relationship as an experiment."
We have grown up together and we have been true to our original purpose to bring out the best in one another. The relationship we have created is beyond anything we could have imagined back on that fateful day when our souls recognized one another. For us, the experiment has been and continues to be a triumphant success.
It would be enough if the love we shared was ours alone to keep, but we have been blessed with abundant opportunities to share the secrets we have discovered with others. We have had the privilege of traveling and teaching all over the world - throughout North America, Japan, Russia, Central America and the Middle East.
Now we are fortunate to be able to reach even more people in more places through the power of technology, the Internet and the World Wide Web.
We invite you to step onto this path of discovery, personal power and spiritual development with us and hope that what you learn here will serve you in having more of what you truly want, and deserve, in all your relationships.
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Since 1977 we have been coaches, educators and innovators in our field. We are pathfinders with a keen interest in the nature of the soul and its creative impact on a person’s sense of self and their relationships with others and the web of life.
We see relationships as a co-creative process that involves everyone in the relationship. Relationships don’t just happen, they are created. We can all have a say whether we create our relationships with awareness and skill or ignorance and confusion. We see the purpose of relationship is to learn, to heal and to spiritually evolve into conscious co-creators of our life and the communities in which we live.
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We see relationships like classrooms in which people can bring out the best in one another and overcome the worst in themselves. Everyone has a higher self and a shadow self. We show our clients how to access all parts of their unique being in order to live an extraordinary life filled with soulful awareness, compassion and spiritual power.
We get to the heart of relationship problems with remarkable speed saving our clients time in growing beyond the relationship troubles that may be concerning them. A frequent comment about our work is that we help people feel safe to move beyond barriers they didn’t even know they had. We have a keen ability to see deep unconscious patterns that drive unwanted behavior patterns and provide practical, real world solutions.
Primarily what makes us different from other relationship experts and coaches is where we think from. We think from an evolutionary paradigm. We are more than theorists. We are path finders, facilitators, hands-on coaches who show our clients how to gain practical, real world wisdom so they can create a quality of life they love and share it with the people who are most important to them.
We have been students of Love for close to 40 years. We have learned to use the healing transformational power of Love like an artist uses a brush to paint. Love is so much more than a warm feeling of affinity or an urge to merge. It is a creative force that determines who we can become, the quality of our life, how we solve problems and create our futures.
What makes us different? We teach our students the skills and everyday practices necessary to make their spiritual ambitions come alive in their own experience. We help them close the gap between their sacred ideals and the quality of their authentic relating with others, be it in romance, in community or in leadership.
We teach the nitty-gritty practicalities of creating relationships of all kinds to be infused with an integrated soulful wisdom and extraordinary compassion. Integration is a key for us. It is not enough for our clients to merely embrace lofty concepts. We assist them in clearing emotional baggage from the past, so that the fullness of their higher self takes seat in their body.
"Love is a creative force that determines who we can become, the quality of our life, how we solve problems and create
We facilitate groups and organizations in building trust and strengthening heart-full, resonant fields that deliver creative thinking and collaboration. We see that the fundamental challenge of humanity and the overwhelming challenges we face today, is a challenge of relationship.
Regardless of race, religion, nationality or culture, as human beings we are much more alike than we are different. If we are to survive in the long term, we need to quickly evolve beyond our inborn prejudices and perceived differences to find a common path that will insure our cooperation to create a sustainable future for all forms of life.
We are wisdom keepers of an esoteric body of knowledge for the evolving human soul. For almost forty years, we have been working as a professional husband and wife team teaching and coaching people in an evolutionary way of living life. We help individuals, couples, families and business partners seize the powerful spiritual opportunity available in relationships.
We work with clients from all around the world over the phone, SKYPE and face to face depending on what is most convenient and effective. We offer one to one coaching and team coaching with couples and groups. We live in a commitment to help others create a better world for all through soulful relating.
We notice that we are all born into relationship. We are wounded in relationship. We are healed in relationship and we evolve in relationship. Relationships touch every other part of our life, therefore they are the highest point of leverage to enrich our future.