I was thinking about family members while reading your post, and wondering if old upsets getting recreated/remembered in the present caused the stressful relations where I couldn’t point to anything wrong. Saying what happened, it all seemed innocuous and yet thinking about the interaction I feel sad, upset, a noticeable lack of joy and generally icky.
Yes, that is exactly the kind of thing that can happen in current relationships. We wrote a book called, You’re Never Upset for the Reason You Think, which goes into this dynamic in great detail, including what to do about it..
Paul and Layne bring great insights into interpersonal dynamics as illustrated by this real life situation. Very interesting concept…. Tanking. Food for thought.
As always, insightful and timely! When one “gets it”, the path forward is so blissfully easy. But when, like most, one struggles, we experience life as we have it…stressful, tumultuous and, as suggested, full of dis-ease. Thank you Layne and Paul…and a very Merry Xmas and exceedingly Happy New Year to all!
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Thank you. Love the ease & harmony in this article. Describes an ideal of relationship & community building.
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I was thinking about family members while reading your post, and wondering if old upsets getting recreated/remembered in the present caused the stressful relations where I couldn’t point to anything wrong. Saying what happened, it all seemed innocuous and yet thinking about the interaction I feel sad, upset, a noticeable lack of joy and generally icky.
Yes, that is exactly the kind of thing that can happen in current relationships. We wrote a book called, You’re Never Upset for the Reason You Think, which goes into this dynamic in great detail, including what to do about it..
Paul and Layne bring great insights into interpersonal dynamics as illustrated by this real life situation. Very interesting concept…. Tanking. Food for thought.
Thank you, Daniel, for taking the time to share. Food for thought, indeed!
As always, insightful and timely! When one “gets it”, the path forward is so blissfully easy. But when, like most, one struggles, we experience life as we have it…stressful, tumultuous and, as suggested, full of dis-ease. Thank you Layne and Paul…and a very Merry Xmas and exceedingly Happy New Year to all!
You’re welcome, Brett, and Merry Christmas to you, too! We appreciate your comments and glad you found this post timely.